3 Things I Pray My Boys Will Find in a Bride.

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Jordan over at Mama Blogga Is holding a group writing project and this time I wanted to jump in! The theme is “3 things I want my kids too…” and you can fill in the rest of the idea. If you are interested in joining check out this link for full details.

On to my post for the project.
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3 Things I Pray my Boys Will Find in a Bride.

Choosing a mate. Wow.

Because I’m a mother of a pre-schooler and a toddler the idea of them choosing a mate some day is a difficult thing to imagine! I barely allow them being away from me for more than a few hours! Despite that, I’m aware that some day my little birds will fly away and at some point probably marry (I hope!). I keep this forward thought in my mind as I pray for them.

It’s wild to imagine that the little girl may be out there somewhere already. That some mommy and daddy (I pray for her sake,) are raising her with love and leading her in a way that will make her a good wife and mother (again I hope!) some day.

I know I know, I am reflecting MY WANTS onto their choice already! I see every reason to have a goal and pray blessings on their life. I hope that when that time comes around I am able to be as wonderful and gracious as my own mother-in-law is to me.

If I could outline the things I pray for most regularly regarding their wives it would be these:

1. That she would love Jesus and see her life as a process in which she is shaped in molded more into His likeness. Let’s face it, no one is perfect! But to Love Jesus first above all else will cause all things naturally, over time, to fall into place. That in all things she would be teachable. That she would never feel like she has “arrived” but will always have a perspective that desires to grow while maintaining thankfulness for where she is at.

2. I pray that she would never see divorce as an option and understand the seriousness of her vows made on her wedding day. I pray that her love for my son would be there on both the good days and the bad ones. The days he is being crappy and the days he is her prince. That she would demonstrate her love by thinking about his needs and desiring to meet them.

3. I pray that she would be his best friend. That he will have shared more laughs with her than anyone else. That she would be able to grow and dream with him. That they could share everything, run to each other in excitement with accomplishments, and cry together with defeats. I pray that their friendship would challenge and sharpen each other.

It’s good to have an opportunity to consider these things. I pray we are able to raise boys that have these same values deep within their being.

What do you pray or hope for your own children?

Comments

17 Responses to “3 Things I Pray My Boys Will Find in a Bride.”

momlovesbeingathome on June 26th, 2007 3:35 pm

That’s really cool, MZ! I’m getting oh so close to this area! My daughter will be 15 in a few months and I know within the next few years things will change around here. We do not allow dating (in the traditional American way) in our house so I’m not too worried about that aspect. We will follow a courtship model. The older my kids get I think they more I can understand parents who have prearranged their children’s marriages! I want so much for her to find a man who will treasure her and treat her like a princess. The things you wrote are definitely tops on the list!!

You know what’s really funny is that I met my husband when I was her age. That just dawned on me not too long ago and I’ve found myself wondering if her future husband is in our lives yet. Isn’t that kind of weird to think that a teenage boy we know might be her husband some day!! haha!

I don’t think about it as much for my son yet. He will be 12 in a little over a month and he’s not really concerned about girls. I know that day will come before I know it though!
Neil on June 26th, 2007 6:55 pm

MZ, those are terrific. Your boys are a little young for my girls, but we’ve prayed for many years that parents would be out there raising authentic Christian boys should they choose to marry. Blessings to you.
Missy on June 26th, 2007 7:04 pm

This post speaks to me because I just recently started praying for my daughters future husband in my prayers. I know its a bit early–she is 8–but I have been so inspired to build a huge envelope of prayer over her future lately.

I think it is awesome to be thinking of these things now. You need to show them this post in twenty years and inform them that if they love you (wink wink) they will follow your wishes!!
Karen on June 26th, 2007 7:24 pm

Wow. Great post! I’ve been praying for my kids’ future spouses too. Sometimes the prayer is simply that the mom of my future son-in-law teaches him patience (to deal with my daughter!)
My writing project submission is also about marriage, btw!
Mommy Zabs on June 26th, 2007 8:34 pm

MLBAH- I’m all about the courting thing- though i think the actual terminology is splitting hairs, but I know what you are talking about and agree with it I don’t think there is much point in going out with anyone exclusively before you are in a place to consider marriage. I was never raised even considering not dating. I dated a lot actually. always serious relationships too! My husband did more of a courting/dating thing… and he was already in his 30s and I was in my mid 20s! I don’t regret it!

Neil- I can tell your girls are just stellar! Too bad my boys are so little

Missy- it’s never too early! You will be thankful you did this someday!

Karen- I read your list too- so well written.
Jordan (MamaBlogga) on June 26th, 2007 10:04 pm

What a wonderful list! I think that those are definitely some of the most important things you can wish for in a future DILs. Y’know, it’s nice to get along with your DILs, but they’ll be your sons’ wives, so it’s most important that your sons get along with them, and that they’re good wives to your sons–and I think the characteristics you list here will do that. Hopefully, if you’ve developed a good relationship with your sons, their best friends will naturally be people that you love as well.

I hope you are right about that. That is at least how I dream of it being
Carmen@littlecooksinthekitchen.com on June 26th, 2007 10:07 pm

That’s a great list! I pray some of those same things for my kids and their future spouses. I did a post on all of the things I pray for my children and it is still, by far the most special post I have done on my blog!

I will definitely have to check that out!
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theobromophile on June 27th, 2007 12:49 am

What a moving post, Zabs! It seems like you’re really hoping for them to find wives who are worthy of the young men you are raising.

As someone who is disillusioned with the modern dating scene, it’s really nice to see things like this. Young men who are taught that their future wife is out there somewhere will be less likely to do the macho guy thing. They’ll also realise that if they want a nice Christian girl, they will have to live in such a way as to be worthy of her love and respect, too.

Aside from abuse, adultery, and abandonment, I can’t imagine a good reason to divorce.

Good points. It is really important that people be the kind of people they want to marry, meaing contain the same values. I tell some of my younger cousins (or have told them) that if they seem themselves marrying a really great guy who loves God and is going to be a good husband and father that they need to strive to develop good character themselves and not compromise. I agree that those are reasons for divorce.
Daisy on June 27th, 2007 1:04 pm

When your sons find their life mates (I said when, not if), I hope these special women will recognize your role in raising these wonderful young men.

Thanks for coming by Daisy, I hope they do, and I hope it will be true of me as well!
Kate on June 27th, 2007 1:29 pm

Perhaps you should look into arranging their marriages? Sure, it’s not usually in the Christian tradition, but it certainly sounds like an insurance policy for your family. Just kidding!

I am sure your boys will make as wise a choice for themselves as their father did.

Ha arranging has definitely been a thought! And thank you for the sweet compliment as well. Come by anytime
Michelle on June 27th, 2007 6:26 pm

These are great! I too have these hopes for my girls and my son. It’s good to pray about these things because we don’t live in a perfect world and even “perfect” suited Christians don’t make good mates. So we pray!!

I love this!

God bless!

Very True. We don’t always know what lies underneath what we see either! We definitely need to exercise prayer, wisdom, AND faith as we marry, realizing that God is the one and only who will never fail us.
Brandi on June 27th, 2007 10:09 pm

Zabs,

What a sweet post. . .I’ll have to really think about that, but I think you hit it right on the head!!! Love you!
Brandi

Thanks B!
Jo Beaufoix on July 2nd, 2007 2:24 pm

Enjoyed your post Mommy Zabs.

Blimey, marriage, I hadn’t either thought of that yet.

My girls are 2 and 6 and I have so many hopes and fears for them.

My main hope though, is just that they will be happy.
Making wise decisions is such a big part of this.

I also hope I’m a good mum-in-law too.
I’ll do my best.

Thanks for coming by JO! Wise decisions… yes, what parent wouldn’t wish that for their children. I hope to be a good ‘mum’ in law as well
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Kasie on July 2nd, 2007 8:25 pm

Great list! I have 2 girls but I wish the same things for their future husbands. It’s so hard to think of that when they’re 5 and 2! What a good reminder to pray for their future spouses.
Smiles!

Thanks for coming by Kasie! 2 girls, that is the opposite of what I’m used to
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